The work I do with mothers is to become aware of what's getting triggered inside in the face of your child's behaviors and heal that programming so that you can show up as the mother you want to be with your child.

In the process of this work, we are rewiring your nervous system and brain towards greater calm, presence and resilience to handle the challenges that come up with your child/children.

I do this work with a few different tools, including:

1. Psychoeducation on understanding the nervous system/brain and chronic stress and trauma and how to better regulate the nervous system and brain. By learning to regulate your nervous system and calm your survival parts of your brain, your child's brain and nervous system learns to regulate too.

2. Therapeutic modalities like Havening (a psychosensory approach that helps de-encode/de-link emotional encoding of the past so that it doesn't get triggered in the present) and I also use some parts work (with a therapy called Internal Family Systems).

These tools help us to target past (mostly childhood) wounds (or encodings) that cause us to react today to our kids and heal/change the emotional encoding of them as well as the beliefs that get encoded that drive our reactions today (eg. beliefs like "kids must listen to their parents", "parents need to have control over their kids", "anger is bad", etc.).

You can find more info about Havening here https://www.havening.org/about-havening/overview

You can find more info about Internal Family Systems (IFS) here
https://ifs-institute.com/

3. Using the power of neuroplasticity with Havening to rewire the brain towards greater resilience.

Here we work on building new pathways in the brain and nervous system that are aligned with who you want to be as a parent.

As you build/enhance these pathways, you have more choice available to you in how to respond vs. react. We will do some of this work together in session as we wire in new ways of being and you will be doing this work on your own to develop and build the qualities of presence, calm, responsiveness, compassion as well as joy, delight, confidence and other qualities you want to have on your parenting journey.

These will be small do-able exercises that you can easily build into your busy days.

4. Coaching on tools/tips to help with your child's behavioral challenges.

Although much of the work we will do will be to heal the reactions happening inside of you (as this is the biggest bang for your buck in terms of helping your child change their behaviors), I can also suggest things you can do to develop a foundation of safety, trust and deeper connection with your child (as this is what helps behaviors immensely!) and problem solve on how to handle specific situations to help them downgrade their reactions and get more cooperation.

I have done a lot of training on childhood behaviors and how to work with them including Dr. Ross Greene's Collaborative & Proactive Solutions, Dr. Stuart Shanker's Self-Reg, Dr. Mona Delahooke's Beyond Behaviors work, Dr. Stanley Greenspan DIR/Floortime, Studio 3's Low Arousal Approach, Dr. Gordon Neufeld’s Attachment Model, PDA Autism Training, and more.

IN GENERAL…

All the above work includes developing an understanding that there is YOU (your true self) and YOUR PROGRAMMING. You are NOT your programming. At the core of who you are, you are whole, complete and have the qualities you want to bring forth in your parenting journey but they are just clouded and covered up by the survival programming that has become activated.

Within this survival programming is also the inner critic and habits of being hard on yourself. We incorporate the work of self compassion in this work too as it is of utmost importance to develop a resilient nervous system that can handle the ups and downs of parenting a child with hypersensitivity with more ease.

RECOMMENDED NUMBER OF SESSIONS:

Please keep in mind that change takes time. It took years to create the mind/body patterns of survival reactions, and although it may not take years to get to a place of better regulation and empowerment, it does take time to change the patterns and create a shift in your survival system.

We can only go as fast as your nervous system and subconscious mind allows.

Given the above, I recommend a minimum of 6 sessions to get you on your path to better emotional health.

FEES:

Below is a link to my coaching packages so you can see how my fees work.

I invite you to tune into your inner guidance system and ask if this is the right next step for you to create the change you're looking for. If so, then please email me at [email protected] to book a free consult call.

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